Our purpose
is to create a safe, supportive, and non-judgmental space for individuals who have survived cult experiences to share, heal, and empower one another.
Guiding Principles
Confidentiality:
- Everything shared within the group, including personal stories and identities, must remain strictly confidential.
- Do not discuss group members or their experiences outside of the group setting.
- Digital or physical recordings of the meetings are strictly prohibited unless agreed with all participating members beforehand.
Respect and Empathy:
- Listen actively and attentively to others without judgment or interruption.
- Acknowledge and validate the diverse experiences and emotions of fellow survivors.
- Avoid giving unsolicited advice or attempting to “fix” others’ problems.
- Refrain from any form of shaming, blaming, or minimizing others’ experiences.
Safety and Boundaries:
- Create a safe space where individuals feel comfortable sharing their stories at their own pace.
- Respect personal boundaries and avoid pressuring others to disclose information they are not ready to share.
- Be mindful of potentially triggering language or topics, and offer content warnings when necessary.
- Avoid promoting any specific ideologies, beliefs, or practices that could be harmful or exploitative.
Support and Empowerment:
- Foster a sense of community and solidarity among survivors.
- Encourage and affirm the strength and resilience of fellow survivors.
- Focus on empowering individuals to reclaim their autonomy and rebuild their lives.
- Provide resources and information related to cult recovery, mental health, and support services.
Group Dynamics:
- Strive for equal participation and ensure that everyone has an opportunity to speak.
- Avoid dominating conversations or monopolizing group time.
- Respect the facilitator’s guidance and adhere to group guidelines.
- Avoid giving medical or legal advice. If a group member is in need of that kind of support, refer them to professionals.
Online specific rules (if applicable):
- Do not share any personal information of other group members online.
- Refrain from using AI tools to record or transcribe the meetings.
- Keep the online meeting space free from distractions.
Disclaimer: This peer support group is not a substitute for professional therapy or counselling. While we aim to provide a safe and supportive environment, we cannot guarantee that discussions will be free from emotional triggers or distress.
Violations of this Code of Conduct will be addressed by the group facilitator or designated members. Repeated or serious breaches may result in exclusion from the group. This space is intended to support healing; any behaviour that compromises the safety or wellbeing of others may result in being asked to leave.
This code of conduct is a living document and may be revised or amended as needed to ensure the well-being of all group members.
Existing Resources
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Frequently Asked Questions
Do I have to share my story in the group?
No. You are welcome to attend and simply listen. There is no pressure to speak, and you can participate in whatever way feels comfortable for you.
What happens in a meeting?
Meetings are facilitated and begin with a brief welcome and reminder of group guidelines. People may choose to share experiences, listen, or reflect. There is no set expectation for participation, and the space is held to allow for pauses, silence, and self-regulation.
What if I feel overwhelmed during a session?
You are free to step away at any time without explanation. You may leave the room, take a break, or choose not to return to a session. The group is designed to support autonomy, including your ability to regulate your own level of participation.
Is this group religious or anti-religious?
No. The group is not aligned with or against any belief system. It is focused on lived experience of control, coercion, and recovery, regardless of the ideology or context involved.
Is attendance ongoing or can I come once?
You can attend as often or as little as you choose. Some people come regularly, others attend once or occasionally. There is no expectation of ongoing attendance.
Will I be asked details about my experience during vetting?
You may be asked a few gentle, open-ended questions to help us understand your background and whether the group is a good fit. You are not required to share anything you are not comfortable with.
Can I attend if I’m not sure it was a cult?
Yes. Many people take time to understand their experience. If you’ve been in a high-control or confusing environment and are unsure how to name it, you are still welcome to reach out.
Why is there a vetting process?
The vetting process exists to help ensure the group remains a safe and appropriate space for survivors of cults and high-control groups. It is not about exclusion, but about understanding each person’s situation and maintaining group safety and stability.